Children do not initiate love; they reflect love. If the child does not receive a convincing demonstration of this love, he will not become a conductor of love, but will become fearful, anxious, and lacking self-esteem. Because all behavior is learned, and character is nothing more than acquired habit, we need God-centered instruction in child-rearing. In the Shema, we receive specific guidelines on instructing our children — emphasizing continuous intense love and devotion through our words, example, and behavior. Children learn what they live; we must rear children with a view to their future spiritual destiny rather than our own self-centeredness. We demonstrate love for our children through eye contact, physical contact (touching or hugging), and focused attention (time).