Fathers have become something of a dying breed. Satan's primary tool for destroying the family is to get rid of the father. If Satan cannot get rid of the father, he will try to feminize him. Feminist Nancy Marshall of Welsley College believes that gender is totally a learned behavior, advocating that the rough edges associated with masculinity be grounded down, while young boys get in touch with themselves. As a result, discipline has left the scene in the family structure, replaced by nurturing. Today's men, according to John Roseman, have caved into feminist propaganda, becoming in effect a "second mother." In order to become a good father, one has to be a good husband, providing firm guidance to the family. As feminine virtues are lauded in men, masculine virtues are marginalized.