1 John 3:16-24
In verse 16, John teaches that we can know love by observing the way Jesus lived His life. He sacrificed His life for us by laying it down each day, as well as in death, setting us an example to follow in our relations with the brethren. In verse 17, he provides a practical illustration of a way we can lay down our life in love. Then, in verse 18, he encourages us not merely to agree with truth but to take action to meet a brother's need.
Verse 19 begins to show the effect of devoted sacrifice to this way of life. The persuasive power of knowing we are doing the right things inspires assurance, confidence, and satisfaction; we feel a positive sense that we are right with God. He then explains that, when these are not produced—but instead we feel guilt and condemnation because we know we are not doing well, and our concern for not being perfect overwhelms us—we need to go to God for forgiveness because He will forgive.
Verse 21 is a subtle encouragement to repent, to turn from our self-centeredness so we can be at peace with God and within ourselves. Verse 22 discloses the positive effect of laying down our lives in sacrifice for our brethren by devotedly keeping the commandments: answered prayers. Living by faith and displaying it through a life of sacrificial love is the theme of verse 23, and finally, in verse 24, he reveals another positive effect: to know absolutely that He lives in us and we in Him. Our lives revolve around faith in this knowledge.
John W. Ritenbaugh
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Love is not a feeling but an action, measured by obedience to God's commandments and shown through practical deeds toward God and man. Christ laid down His life daily and in death, setting the example for relations with the brethren. Merely agreeing with truth is insufficient; one must act to meet a brother's need. Fine words, thoughts, and feelings can never replace deeds, for God's emphasis is always on action. Doing nothing is a form of hatred, almost equated with murder. Even when physical help is impossible, praying for the person is an active step toward righteousness. The way people live reveals the children of God, and such living produces assurance, a tranquil conscience, and confidence before Him.